As Charlotte and I have applied the principles and tools presented in this book we have experienced steadily increasing joy in our marriage. And this makes sense: Relational connection is the source of joy, relational conflict breaks relational connection, and applying these principles to resolve and prevent relational conflict will therefore result in much more joy.

As mentioned earlier, God has created us to be relational beings, and this seems to be one of the most important aspects of his plan for us. The enemy, not surprisingly, therefore makes a special effort to attack relationships. Understanding and applying these principles can help us to outwit the devil’s schemes to disrupt the Body of Christ through relational conflict.

Our most important relationship is our relationship with the Lord, and therefore the most important point regarding all of this is how it applies to this relationship. The most costly effect of traumatic implicit memory content and VLE confabulations is injury to our relationship with the Lord, and the most important reason to understand and apply these principles is to remove blockages that hinder our hearts from perceiving and connecting with him. Understanding and applying these principles in our relationship with the Lord will help us outwit the devil’s schemes to disrupt this relationship that God desires to be the foundation and center of our lives.